Arms and the Man (and the Woman!) During Sex

man and woman push ups

To really have sustained fun in the bedroom, it's no joke. Holding certain positions really does require muscle stamina and strength. Find yourself ALWAYS trying to be on the bottom or hitting it from spoon position, guys? You know that you're doing that because of the intense tricep burn that you get when you try to stay on top because you don't work out! Ladies, that goes for you also! Are you finding that you can't stay in the cowgirl position for more than a minute or so? When you get there and start to do most of the work, you finally get to see what guys have to go through all of the time, right?

Well, both men and women can stay in these somewhat strenuous sexual positions longer if they only put in a little time for some weight work and resistance training at the gym. Even if you can't hit the gym, guess what? A few sets of pushups will go a long way in helping you to build that arm endurance of steel that can keep you up and in the pocket for an hour or more. Building up your core and back strength isn't a bad idea either, while you're at it.

Here are some exercises you can do to help keep up that arm endurance during sex:

Push Ups

Bench Press

Tricep Dips

Mountain Climbers

Bicep Curls

Straight Arm Plank

Do a few sets of 20 to 30 every other day or so and then you will have the potential to be an absolute BEAST in the bedroom!


My G Spot Is Broken!! Help!!

Those of you ladies who use vibrators regularly know the syndrome. When you first start hanging out with "your little friend", that ever so wonderful technological marvel known as the vibrator, the orgasms you experience are earth shattering, mind twisting and will make both your face and vocal cords contort and twist into shapes and sounds you never knew were possible. The first time I ever used mine, I came like The Exorcist. Literally. I screamed so hard that I had to stuff a towel in my mouth 'lest the neighbors would think I was being murdered, and my body contorted in a way that resembled an electrocution. Was not pretty, but MAN, was that the most INTENSE orgasm I'd ever had EVER! And that first orgasm tripped into several of them, one after the other! I was flopping around on the couch like a rag doll with one finger stuck in the light socket. WOW! "Where you been all my life???!!!", was the first thought I had upon recovering.

Well, our close friendship from that day grew, and we began to visit with each other more often. I loved my new friend, and made sure to set aside at least a few minutes every day or so for us to spend together some quality time. It was bliss. The thing is, pretty soon I began to notice that our "happy moment" was getting harder to achieve and taking much longer to get to. And then one day, it totally stopped. No matter how hard I tried to make my little vibrator see things my way, it just wasn't happening. I couldn't climax. I was ready to cry! That was the day that my G spot broke and my vibrator stopped working. At least, that's the way I saw it!

This little phenomenon of having your vibrator stop working is actually pretty common. First of all, the sensation that your clitoris receives from the rapid vibrations stimulates the nerves so quickly and efficiently that those nerves which trigger an orgasm are stimulated to their "blast off" point faster than you can blink an eye. And the orgasm is such a physiological event that it really does take it to the maximum level in a way that normal methods of achieving an orgasm can hardly duplicate. But after a while of repeated usages, the nerves in that area become accustomed to this level of stimulation and no longer respond as quickly. A regular vibrator user will find it harder and harder and that it takes much longer to climax each time. So, is your G spot really "broken"? No. It's just seen it and done it all before and now needs a lot more work to be impressed. Just like a smart girl, it won't just give it all up on the first date anymore. However, instead of working harder for it, you will have to pull back. Instead of getting a stronger model, stop using your vibrator altogether for a few weeks. Yes, weeks. For more hardcore users, you might have to go without for a few months. Reclaiming the original "shock value" that your clitoral nerves once had will take some time. Back off, find less mechanical ways to achieve your orgasms and then, when you feel that enough time has passed, give the old vibrator a whirl again. You should be able to get back to orgasms as usual. However, don't overdo it. Save your little buddy for special occasions. Then, you will be able to enjoy many more times together the way you like, just fewer and farther in between! ;)

Tighten It Up! Kegel Exercises for Pelvic Strength


We've all heard about Kegel exercises, the notariety of which began in the 40's when Dr. Arnold Kegel invented them to help a woman to prepare and strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor of her vagina for childbirth, and then to help tighten them back up post pregnancy. Kegel exercises are still a great way to strengthen and tighten that lower core of the body, both for men and women. In women, it has been proven that Kegels help to increase the vagina's ability to "grip" and contract and in men, Kegels have also been shown to help increase a man's sexual endurance and can also aid in some cases of erectile dysfunction. The exercises are performed basically by contracting the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles and the muscles surrounding them, including the pelvic diaphragm. The pubococcygeal is that muscle you use when you want to hold or stop your urine from flowing. Learning to hold and control these muscles even more strongly than you already naturally do is achieved through a series of contractions, (Kegels) best performed at least once or twice a day. The great thing about Kegel exercises is that you can do them anywhere! Nobody even has to know what you're up to. While sitting here reading this post you can be doing some Kegel exercises right now! Here is a little Kegel exercise routine that both men and women can use to get those nether regions tight and right within as little as a week!

The only motion you will have to employ here is the one you use to stop your pee from flowing. Do it right now. Contract like you're holding your pee in mid stream. Really grip and control it, not allowing it to open. Great! You've just located your PC muscle. This is what is mainly going to get worked so that you can build up that muscle control and strength.

Two techniques

Technique 1 - Staccato Contractions

Now that you know exactly how to engage that PC muscle, we're going to do a series of quick holds, one second each, one second in between each. Kind of like blinking your eye, but more firmly and in much more rapid successsion. "Blink" or one second hold your PC muscle on and off. Hold, release, hold, release. Try to keep doing it for one minute straight. After that minute, rest. You will have done anywhere from 27 - 30 or so in that minute. This will enable you to develop superior control over your pelvic muscles.

Technique 2 - Sustained Holds

Here, we're going to work on the muscle strength and endurance. You're going to once again contract that PC muscle, but this time you're going to hold it firmly for 5 seconds (count to five). Try to keep that muscle tightly contracted for the entire 5 seconds. Then let go, relax a couple seconds and do it again. Hold, count to five, release. You will do about 10 in a minute. Ladies, this is where you will begin to develop that Kung Fu grip down there, and for the men, this will help lift your testicles and allow you to have even more control over your ejaculations. A win win for everybody involved here!


Now that you've got the two basic techniques, you can do sets, switch it up, and also work on going for even longer than 5 second holds if you really want to become a champ at this. Another cool way to go about it is to do it to music. I'm not kidding folks! Next time a good song with a steady beat comes on, do a quick little Kegel routine to it! Mix it up and do staccatos AND sustained holds in sync with the music. Create your own rhythms! Not only fun (and yes, a party in your pants, for sure) but you are really practicing and developing the ultimate pelvic muscle control in this scenario. Strong pelvic muscles equal better sex for both you and your partner, so don't be shy!

As you're doing these techniques, be sure to also contract and hold all the surrounding muscles. Feel your whole lower core go tight and then release. That way, you make sure that the entire pelvic floor is engaged.

Start doing your Kegel exercises today! And just be careful about those facial expressions. Those might actually give you away, or either just confuse anyone around you at the time!